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| Wild At Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul |
A few years back, my students got so into this book. Boys read it because they wanted to understand the core of their hearts. Girls were encouraged to read it to understand the guys more. Sadly due to my busy schedule (seems like busyness has become a perfect excuse for me to stop doing the things that I used to love. Tsss!) I failed to read it.
The book offered a lot of insights about the role of a man in this world. It actually made me understand why guys think that way and I got rebuked along the way. Oh, men! (hihihi)
What is a man for?
1. A man is to explore, build, and conquer.
2. A man is to fight many battles on many battlefields. He's to come through in a pinch.
3. He is to long for a beauty to rescue.
What does that mean? Well, we, girls, want our guys to understand us most of the time. We have the tendency to want our guys to be by our side often and be somehow domesticated. However, God never designed men to stay put and be domesticated. The core of a man's heart is undomesticated. Guys never stop exploring. Aggression is also part of the masculine design. He is like a warrior. There is something fierce in a man. Adventure is written into his heart. It's just about having "fun" for them. Adventure requires something of them that puts them to the test. Other than that, a man wants to be the hero to the beauty. A man also yearns for romance. Restrict or hinder a man from being the man that God created him to be will only cause him to lose his life. That's when guys end up being tempted into having other women and even pornography.
The Woman
"In our fear that no one will speak on our behalf or protect us or fight for us, we start to recreate both ourselves and our role in the story. We manipulate our surroundings so we don't feel so defenseless." - Fallen Eve
No wonder, I feel at times that I have to "man up". I have to be a "toughie" because it's my defense mechanism. It's the main reason why women wants to control and we end up feeling like we need to be clingy.
On Sex and Relationships
Men do not need sex to validate their masculinity. It's not about that at all. "Eve (the epitome of a woman) is a garden of delight but she's not everything you want, everything you need -- not even close." Finding out who you are will always be a search without an end if you keep on looking at the wrong places... if you keep on validating at the wrong place. Go back and find what a man is for.
On Commitments / Relationships
God took immense risks. He never limited his risks and covered his bases. He took the risk the moment he gave us free will -- when He chose to love us and be in a relationship with us. Just like any relationship, there's a certain amount of unpredictability, and the ever-present likelihood that you'll get hurt.
- so why be afraid of commitments? Even God took risks! IMMENSE risks. That's all part of the relationship.
"Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give it to no one, not even an animal." -CS Lewis
"When it comes to living and loving, what's required is a willingness to jump in with both feet and be creative as you go."
On Calling
" The place where God calls you is the place where your deep gladness and the world's deep hunger meet." - Frederick Buechner
On Counseling
"Never make a principle out of your experience; let God be as original with other people as he is with you." - Oswald Chambers
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